Top 10 Lies You Need to Stop Telling Yourself

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Destructive lies we all tell ourselves that hold us back from achieving our dreams

You know you do it. You believe you’re protecting yourself when in reality you’re sabotaging your success.

These negative thoughts and toxic people are holding you back from true success and real happiness.

Here are 10 lies you need to stop telling yourself.

1. I’m too scared to start my own business.

You don’t have a fear of starting your own business. You have a fear of suffering when you finally do. This is a key distinction.

Once you’ve made that distinction, face your fear, and take the leap. The benefits far outweigh any negative repercussions.

Let’s face it, you’re not getting any younger. Start that business now.

2. My company has a cut-throat culture. More than most.

Your company is not the most competitive on the planet. It’s your little bubble. Stop using this as an excuse.

Do good work. If fact, do good work all the time. Worry about yourself. Compete with yourself. You’ll be fine.

3. My coworkers are trying to undermine me.

People are not out to get you. They don’t care about you, they care about themselves. It’s not about you. Figure this out, and get on with your life.

4. I didn’t go to the right school, so I’ll never get that big job.

If you’re insecure about your education, go back to school. Or get over it. Either way, you need to get past your thought that your education is holding you back.

The most successful people I know went to very average schools or no school at all.

5. There is an in-crowd at my company.

If there is a click culture in your company who cares? We’re all adults here. If you feel alienated then don’t seek social affirmation at work.

Get involved in a productive extracurricular activity with a social element. I love CrossFit. It’s healthy, social, and supportive. You don’t need your colleagues to feel part of the in-crowd. Create your own in-crowd.

6. I don’t live in the right city to pursue my dreams.

Many great opportunities can happen remotely because of today’s technologies. We live in a true global village. Ready to take the plunge and leave your current city? Head over to Jobbatical, and hit the road.

7. I can’t leave it all, I have a mortgage and a family, and roots.

These are very real things. But at what cost are you trading for happiness? If your family loves you when you leave they will still see you.

You create roots wherever you land. Mortgages aren’t exclusive to your city. You can sell your home and change your life.

8. I’m way too old for that, this generation laughs at guys/gals my age.

I run a digital marketing agency. We work with demanding clients. They want to work with good people.

Good work trumps age every time. Be good at what you do, the rest will fall into place.

9. I’m way too young for that, this is an old boy network.

See #8.

10. I don’t have the time.

This one makes me insane. Want more time? Stop binge watching TV shows.

Get up earlier, and stop saying you don’t have time. You do. You don’t have your priorities straight.





By Chris Dessi
 CEO, Silverback Social